Being needy is probably one of the worst things you could do in a relationship. A healthy relationship can only exist if the two partners are able to exist without using each other as a life force.
Yes, you need to be able to rely and depend on each other, but that is a completely different notion than someone not being able to live without the other person.
Today, my ex contacted me. Again. Who knows how many times he has contacted me in the four months that we’ve broken up! Each time I’ve asked him to not contact me again, but lucky me, he never listens.
Today, the form of contact was a letter mailed to my house. The letter did not have his name or address on it, instead it was the address of a small local business. Inside, the letter was typed, not handwritten, and his name was not visible anywhere. With these details missing, I skimmed through the letter before I suddenly realized that it was from him.
What the hell?
Thanks buddy for that.
Anyways, the contents of the letter basically stated all of the different ways that he had changed since we had broken up, and how he was going to do better if we got back together again. What a load of BS.
Even if he is sincere about it, the whole thing is a recipe for disaster. You can’t have such an unbalanced relationship! One person shouldn’t be going out of their way to please the other, in the end you both will be unhappy and filled with resentment. Besides, I’ve been doing just fine being single! Why take on the drama of a crazy relationship?
He doesn’t seem to understand, and I feel sorry for him.
I sincerely hope that he finds happiness, and realizes that it’s no longer with me! And to be completely honest, you can’t go into a relationship if you have all kinds of issues in the first place. You have to first straighten yourself out before you can get with another person. I’m not claiming to be perfect, I know that I have things to work on. But this guy, doesn’t even have a clue that he’s got issues and he’s chasing after me!
Before you try and find happiness with someone, you need to find happiness within yourself.
Readers, have you ever dealt with crazy exes? What did you do?