Being needy is probably one of the worst things you could do in a relationship. A healthy relationship can only exist if the two partners are able to exist without using each other as a life force.
Yes, you need to be able to rely and depend on each other, but that is a completely different notion than someone not being able to live without the other person.
Today, my ex contacted me. Again. Who knows how many times he has contacted me in the four months that we’ve broken up! Each time I’ve asked him to not contact me again, but lucky me, he never listens.
Today, the form of contact was a letter mailed to my house. The letter did not have his name or address on it, instead it was the address of a small local business. Inside, the letter was typed, not handwritten, and his name was not visible anywhere. With these details missing, I skimmed through the letter before I suddenly realized that it was from him.
What the hell?
Thanks buddy for that.
Anyways, the contents of the letter basically stated all of the different ways that he had changed since we had broken up, and how he was going to do better if we got back together again. What a load of BS.
Even if he is sincere about it, the whole thing is a recipe for disaster. You can’t have such an unbalanced relationship! One person shouldn’t be going out of their way to please the other, in the end you both will be unhappy and filled with resentment. Besides, I’ve been doing just fine being single! Why take on the drama of a crazy relationship?
He doesn’t seem to understand, and I feel sorry for him.
I sincerely hope that he finds happiness, and realizes that it’s no longer with me! And to be completely honest, you can’t go into a relationship if you have all kinds of issues in the first place. You have to first straighten yourself out before you can get with another person. I’m not claiming to be perfect, I know that I have things to work on. But this guy, doesn’t even have a clue that he’s got issues and he’s chasing after me!
Before you try and find happiness with someone, you need to find happiness within yourself.
Readers, have you ever dealt with crazy exes? What did you do?
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I never have had that happen to me. I’ve just have annoying people have a crush on me. What I do, is try to embarrass them when they are around me or try to make them think of me as somebody different. Not saying that you need to act like a slob. Like I’d recommend you tell them to back off and you don’t appreciate them… Like say that they will never get you back. And tell them to lose you number. Like also ignore when he texts or calls, or writes. Anything. Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Thanks for the advice, might try that as a new tactic. I’ve told him several times that we are not getting back together, and to stop contacting me but he doesn’t listen. Perhaps he’d listen to silence. Thanks for reading and commenting!
Yeah… Do a “big blow of no”
And then dont respond… If you do, he’ll understand you are ignoring him and he will keep yabbering.
I love your post, U know what?, I always feel identified whith your posts. 🙂 😀
Glad that they resonate with you! Thanks for always reading
You´re welcome.
Quite the coincidence I read this today, since this girl I guess it´s her insecurities, but every word you say she takes it the wrong way. You email her, “today is your day off right? have fun” and the response comes “why are you so stiff, and detached.”(something to that effect) What? first off this is email, so it´s writing, second what the hell are you thinking off, why are you always such in a defensive mood. Hanging on to each word as if your constantly looking for a fight. I know you have some problems but so do I plus I can´t be there like your mother plus your already old enough, constantly day in day out hour after hour attending your needs. It just wears me down after months like that.
I definitely understand how that would be taxing on someone. You don’t need that! If anything it just shows that this girl has some problems of her own that will only be resolved after some time alone and self-reflection. I don’t think there’s anything that you could do to possibly change her or even make her happy for the long term. That’s not to say anything bad about you, it’s just that she has internal problems that can’t be fixed by anyone other than herself. Hope you find yourself in a healthier relationship in the future.
Yeah, I´m done with that crap, I already have to deal with my own day to day reality in life to be acting as a psychologist day in day out. It´s sad for her, and I do feel bad for her, but at the same time I can´t be a saint, I do the best I could and that´s that. If you are insecure, have deep inner problems.
I had once been in quite a dark place but same goes for the rest of humanity who hasn´t been in dark places and if you haven´t then you really haven´t lived, the only difference is if you are able to get out of that hole, the only one who is truly going to help,outside influence can also help, but the great majority of the effort has to come within yourself. I found out that quite some time ago and makes you stronger and really much more of a happy camper. And you transmit that to the people around you, who the hell want´s to be with a person that is constantly on the negative side, they can bring you down with them. So it´s almost pure self survival at that point.