I’m finally starting to figure out what I want, in terms of a prospective romantic partner.
I’m learning through the process of trial and error. It’s slow and arduous at times, but much needed.
So what do I not want?
Well in a nutshell: I don’t want a flirtatious man-whore. I don’t desire someone with little self-confidence. I’m not searching for someone with the maturity of a ten year old. And I don’t want someone hell-bent on pleasing me.
What do I want?
Someone who feels confident in himself, has his own goals and ambitions, and wants to connect on a deeper spiritual level.
Do I sound demanding? Maybe.
I’m not saying that I am the essence of perfection, or that I don’t struggle with my own insecurities and faults. Because I do.
But I think it is a mark of maturity and strength to be able to define what one wants and what one wants to avoid. I don’t want to repeat past mistakes. I want to continue to learn and grow with someone, who will help me expand my horizons and see the world in a different light. I want someone who challenges me, nurtures me, and inspires me.
All of the people I have met recently are great guys. Truly nice people. But they just wouldn’t be great for me. I know that they will eventually meet someone who will help them grow and learn on their own path of self-discovery. It’s just not meant to be me!
I’m finally putting myself first and making decisions based on what I want. And it feels good.
Readers, how did you discover what you want in a prospective romantic partner?